From time to time on this blog, you'll read criticisms of democracy. Sometimes, in the past, I've offered the apology that democracy would be okay in a voluntary society in which everyone agreed on the terms that democracy was how they wanted things to be run. But my position lately, however, has been that even in a voluntary society, why would anyone volunteer that the majority would standardize an effect on one's life that one wouldn't otherwise have a reason to change our standardize?
Democracy, ultimately, is best suited for secession. What we would need though is an entire culture of secession. Right now, democracy is so ingrained in the way we think that we can't even see just how less divisive every other option is, including secession. Secession is violent in our society because it reaches beyond the built-in antagonism on which democracy depends. If we didn't have to vote our lifestyles onto other people all the time, secession would likely be a natural part of life and probably wouldn't even earn much of a name until one wanted to mass organize a different kind of society altogether.
When the conditions of a job no longer suit you, you and others quit and go find other work. Slavery is over and so is feudalism.
When a religious institution doesn't suit you anymore, you quit and find another one or you opt out completely. Not too long ago in history, it was unthinkable to quit or change one's religion. In many parts of the world today outside of the west, the same is true.
It's a natural conclusion to take this idea further and suppose that people are capable of living amongst and associating with people who share the same values, but without constant political antagonism.
There will always be violence and antagonism in this life, but why cater to it or build it into the system? We need a society of 'let bygones be bygones,' in which all are in a position to fulfill their destiny - not the manifest destiny of an ever shifting, easily manipulated constituency.